There are two main things that bring wreck to a blissful marriage, affair and divorce. Both are somehow interconnected, although at times people divorce not because of an affair. However, these two things are not to be taken lightly because once a marriage is wrecked, the family is broken too as well. In the end, who suffer? The kids are the ones who suffer.
Let me begin with the affair. When a man and a woman got married, they started off living a blissful life as lovebirds. Honeymoons, adventures together, making love, you name them, they do them all. However, as time passes by, both parties lose passion inside their heart, probably due to negligence and both taking each other for-granted. When the passion inside their heart died, they will no longer have the interest to make love with each other. That was when the loneliness inside their heart began. Hence, either party started seeking for the new spark from someone else, and that was how the affair began. Be it physically or emotionally, it is still an affair. His or her heart is no longer with the spouse, but with the third person. This is definitely one thing that wrecks a marriage.
Another thing that caused this affair was due to regrets. Why? For some people, the person they marry may not be the person whom they love the most, or probably even have feelings for at all. Due to some reasons, they could not be with the one they love so they moved on and married someone else. However, they just could not get rid off their old flame. By chance, they collided with their old flame and if the old flame too has feelings for them, the affair began, which ended up hurting the innocent spouse.
From there, there are two things people should take note for a blissful marriage:
1. Marry someone whom you love the most and who loves you the most (mutual)
Why? If you marry someone knowing his or her heart does not belong to you, true love can never be made. Sure, there will be a blissful family, but as time passes by, you can never see the genuine sparkle in your spouse's eyes, simply because you who live with him or her, is not the one whom he or she loves the most. On the other hand, if you marry someone else just for the sake of moving on, yet there is still some bits of your ex-lover inside your heart, you will never be happy. There will always be regrets inside until you're old. Okay, assuming there is no divorce. You'll still feel that you're living with a man or woman, but not the one you love the most. There still is the emptiness inside your heart.
2. Make wonders in your marriage, if possible daily
Many couple ended up with affair and divorce simply because they take passion and intimacy for-granted. No, no, no, no, no, this must not happen at all. No matter how busy you are, at least spend some few minutes sending e-mails or text messages assuring you're doing fine and you miss him or her. It'll be better if it's a phone call. If he or she is stressed, do not leave him or her alone. Instead, let him or her know you're always there to encourage him. Simple actions such as a good luck lunchbox or a hearty breakfast to start off the rough day will do. After all, it is the thought that matters right? When both parties are connected by heart daily, it is nearly impossible for the third person to intrude between them.
It's been a while since I wrote a sensible post without having my emotions affected. No, this is purely based on thoughts and not emotions, just like my old blog posts.
Glad to say I'm getting over my pain day after day =) but the love is still there, and most probably will always be there =)
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